Unapologetically Me
- Luxsheryl
- Dec 1, 2025
- 3 min read
Hi everyone. Happy first day of the month December. Today marks another milestone in my life, love and growth. I Thank God for having sustained me all these years. His faithfulness has been my refuge and His Love has guided me through seasons of life.
To my beloved family, words cannot fully express my appreciation for their unwavering support, love and kindness. I Thanked God for giving me such an amazing man to walk through life with. When I count my blessings. I think of my friends as well both old and new. Who enrich my life inside and outside work. I am truly grateful for all the wonderful people in my life who stood by me during hard times, I just can't mention them one by one, but they know who they are.Cultivating gratitude for these relationship is a key part of personal well-being. So glad to have you all here for this part of my life. So welcome to this chapter of my journey.
As I am entering a new life milestone I am in a pursuit of finding my true self. How can I celebrate all parts of myself, including imperfections, and having the confidence to express my needs and boundaries without feeling the need to apologize or seek external validation. How can I unapologetically honor my core values, and let go of the need for external validation, and embracing my uniqueness. I know it involves setting boundaries, speaking your truth even if your voice shakes, and focusing on what you can control to build a life aligned with your authentic self. But the thing is, I also cared about what other people think of me, not what I think of me. As part of always pleasing people, it's a toxic trait to have. And the sad truth is, it's part of human condition, we are social human beings.
Few days ago, I've been reflecting this simple yet full of substance idea: What does it really mean to be unapologetically you? Not the version of you who doesn't stand in your own identity. Not the version of you who can not embrace your own power. But the version of you who "Don't shrink: but SHINE!"
Here's some valuable knowledge I've gained after my self searching journey, I'd like to share.
How to be your Authentic Self and Embrace Who You Are:
Honor your core values: Align your decisions and actions with what is most important to you, not what others expect.
Let go of external validation: Stop seeking approval from others and focus on your own definition of success and happiness.
Set clear boundaries: Learn to say "no" to things that don't align with your goals or values and protect your time and energy.
Embrace your uniqueness: Celebrate your strengths and even your vulnerabilities, as they are part of what makes you who you are.
Navigating the new milestone
Talk to yourself: Practice positive self-talk or a pep talk to shift your perspective and build confidence as you enter this new phase.
Focus on what you can control: You can't control time, but you can control your health, your choices, and how you react to situations.
Be direct and clear: When you need to communicate, be concise and clear to assert your needs and avoid misunderstandings.
What it doesn't mean
Being reckless or insensitive: Unapologetic does not mean being rude or dismissive. It's about being true to yourself in a confident, self-aware way.
Being sorry for your decisions: It means not apologizing for making the right choices for you, putting your health first, enjoying your life, or working in a way that's smart for you.
My Take Away Message
When you truly don't care what anyone thinks of you, you've reached a dangerously awesome level of freedom. Because it frees you from the pressure of external validation, allowing you to focus on your own values, desires and sense of self. At the end of the day your happiness don't depend on other people. "Don't shrink to fit into somebody's life and approval." "The right people will love you for you"
Other Currated Book Recommendation:
Living In Wisdom a path to embodying your authentic self, embracing grief, and developing self mastery.
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